Single? Maybe. Avoid Online Dating Lies and More

Author: Nancy Sheerin

At first glance, you’re impressed with the profiles of several attractive, successful singles. But, what your friend failed to tell you is that what you see online, isn’t always what you get in person.

According to Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together Dating, the largest brick-and-mortar dating service in the world, “Online dating sites are used by the honest and dishonest alike. Men and women use the anonymity of the Web to lie about their age, appearance, name and even gender. For example, cheating spouses will use online dating sites to hook up with someone when they go out of town. It’s important to be aware of the perils of online dating before you get burned.”

Falzone alerts online daters of the red flags which signal potential dates to avoid:

R U free 2nite? The “texter” who has a few seconds to send text messages, but is always too busy or not available to actually chat on the phone or via email. This type likes communication to be kept to a minimum, unless s/he initiates it. Dates are often made and cancelled at the last minute with a variety of excuses used. S/he is often out of town a lot and inaccessible. These are common signs of someone who is not single and/or not being honest with you. Move on. You can do much better.

Beauty or beast? Beware of dishonesty through photo misrepresentation. Note that a good profile usually provides more than one photo of that person. If the photo looks too professional, chances are, it is – and perhaps even “borrowed” from somewhere else. And yes, there are people who deliberately post their high school photo from 15 years ago to attract your interest.

Think you hit the jackpot when you get a nice response with a good-looking photo? One of the ways competing online dating sites draw you in is by responding to you with profiles of “beautiful people” from another dating site. After you’ve clicked over to that site and signed up to meet that gorgeous creature, oftentimes you’ll find they don’t even exist. Save your time and money by responding to those who are members of your dating site.

Little lies. So you recently arranged to meet that single, 6’4”, trim and muscular, brown-haired former college basketball captain whom you found online. Upon meeting in person, you find out that the only thing true in his description of himself was his hair color. Some believe that telling “little lies” on their profile with regard to a couple inches in height or a couple pounds in weight won’t matter. Be aware that those who misrepresent themselves on the “little things” may have no problem lying about “bigger things” such as their marital status and age. Don’t settle for what you read in a profile. Verify the information they have offered by asking about their age, relationship status, height and weight. They may refuse to answer your questions or they may provide different information. Or, everything may measure up. Regardless, you’ll have a better idea of that person’s honesty and whether or not you really want to meet him/her.

The “put down”. Avoid the online profile that disrespects and rips an ex-lover to shreds or simply informs you of those aspects s/he doesn’t want in a date. For example, “looking for someone without issues - unlike my fat, drunk ex.” Or, “if you’re needy, jealous and selfish, look elsewhere”. These are profiles that signal potential anger issues. Statements such as these come from someone who has recently ended a relationship or is emotionally scarred from a past relationship and really not happy. Leave them be. You don’t need to be their sounding board or rebound date. They’re not ready to date now and won’t be until they can move on.

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Understanding How Women Attract Men

Author: Elliot Beers

The dating scene is populated with two types of people - the haves and the have-nots. While the first group enjoys a steady stream of suitors and relishes in the excitement of romance, the have-nots are left alone wondering why they can't seem to find the right person. For women in particular, the latter can be frustrating since it is often the men who initiate the dating process. But understand how women attract men can go a long way to improving the fortunes of those who are struggling to garner attention from them.

Looks Aren't Everything
One of the first mistakes than many women make when trying to attract men focusing too much on their appearance. They become so obsessed about how they look that either go overboard on cosmetic enhancements or they attribute every lost dating opportunity to the fact that they didn't wear the right outfit. Of course we all know that appearance is a big part of first impressions, but bringing too much attention to your looks can be overwhelming to men. They can become intimidated by your high standards and you can come across as too uptight if you are always dressed to the nines. The best advice is to look nice, but be careful not to present yourself as plastic or untouchable.

Compatible Interests
It may be hard for some women to believe, but men do think about other things than sex. Considering that most of the waking hours of a relationship are spent outside of the bedroom, it is safe to say that you will need to appeal to a man's general interests and hobbies if you are going to attract them. This doesn't men you have to start playing basketball, but it does infer that you should have a well-rounded approach to life. Stay in the know with recent events, and become familiar with the attractions of your city. You need to be able to entertain your date with more than just talk about work and family.

Curiosity Attracts
It can be tempting to ramble on about yourself when you meet someone new. You may not have dated in a while and you are starving for someone to listen to your stories. However, you should be careful about divulging everything about your personal life. You want your man to become curious about you so that he keeps coming back for more. By leaving hints and suggestions that you have much more to offer him in the future, you will peak his interest and keep him hooked. Men love to fantasize about the potential of a woman, and they soon lose their interest when they feel they already know everything about someone. Use this to your advantage by keeping the plot moving along like a good book.

Most women dealing with frustrations in the dating arena are too hard on themselves. They think they lack the good looks and personality needed to attract a man. The truth is that it is often only their presentation that needs some tweaking. By understand how men think and what they want, you can take your own unique attributes and feed them to your date in a way that keeps them wanting more. Just remember to be yourself, have fun, and slowly reveal your inner secrets.

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Sex Fantasies - The Difference Between Men and Women

Author: Jerry Leung

There are saying that the brains of men are just occupied by the idea of sex and nothing else. There are also researches showing that men will think about sex twice a minute. As a man, we all fantasize about sex. We are always thinking of some hot babe who is of very good body shape. She is also very beautiful and has a very nice breast. And most importantly, she would like to get it on during the lunch break.

It seems that we are unable to look at a woman without thinking about sex. To this end it will be very logical to assume that women will have their own fantasies in sex too! As a matter of fact it is true. However, some men will just think that a woman who is sexual as a slut. As a man, we have to understand that this is not right and we have to admit and understand that women are just like their counter part. They will also have fantasies in sex.

First of all, we have to admit that women and men are different. Of course they are different in terms of physical built. However, there are just more than that. Most men will be aroused by visual stimulations. We will be turned on if we see a woman with nice breast and legs. We can really say that they are visual creatures.

On the contrary, few women will be aroused by merely visual stimulations. You will usually need to do something before they can be turned on. And it is well known that a woman will be easier to be turned on if they have a feeling of connection to her partner. In fact, women will usually get aroused mentally. This will just explain why foreplay is so important for women since it will make the women more relaxed and be prepared before the actual intercourse.

The above will just explain why men love going to strip clubs while more women will prefer reading romance novels. This is just because men are constantly searching for visual stimulation while women are searching for mental arousal. And this is why we need to talk to our women before having sex. However, most of us only know this but we do not really do it when we are having sex with our women.

Now you will probably know that there are great difference between men and women in terms of sex. And you should try to learn more about female body, as well as the thoughts of women if you would like to give her the greatest sexual experiences.

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A Day For Loving

Author: Sue P. McDaniel

PROCLAMATION: Valentine's Day is hereby declared a day for loving!!!

Valentine's Day is for loving - it is not just hearts and flowers, chocolates, sexy lingerie, sweethearts and lovers. Within our culture this day has become a day of both great joy as well as much misery. If you have a sweetie or sweeties to share this day with you this can be a very special time to share your love. However, there are many people who are without that special person, have no family, or are just plain alone and lonely. For these folks, Valentine's Day can be one day that can only pass too quickly.

Perhaps you are one those people without a special someone or maybe you know a person who needs a little TLC (tender loving care). In reality, many people are in need of some TLC. We live in a society in which we have achieved all manner of material success, but are disconnected from each other personally. As I have talked to people about I.M. Heart, there is a consensus that there is a great need to connect from the heart.

What does connection mean? There are all levels of connection - some are short term, occasional or superficial, like two ships passing in the night. We may meet, exchange a greeting and then not see each other for a long period of time. Other connections are with acquaintances, friendly, cordial, a lunch or dinner, not requiring much more than pleasant, social interaction. They are feel good connections that bring happiness and fun to our days. Most of us are fortunate to have personal and intimate connections. These are people with whom we feel free to be honest and open with on more personal and profound topics. Whether or not we are blood relations, we are attached at a deeper comfort level and there is a commitment to the well-being of the other.

We connect in many ways. Through conversation we find that we are all more alike than different, find a trait to like or enjoy in another, or find a common hobby or interest to connect us. In activities, sports, movies, the arts we find a common ground. We may connect simply through a smile, hand shake, hug, eye contact or a nod of our head. The significance of connection is that we find ways to relate to, associate with, or come in touch with another human being. That seems to be the crux of the cultural disconnect - that we have lost touch with the common humanity in one another.

This Valentine's Day, February 14, 2008, is your opportunity to connect! How much influence can you have on the lives of other people in one day? How much love can you spread around in a 24-hour period of time? We could all benefit from more kind souls who are willing to take an extra moment to offer a word of thanks, to extend a helping hand, to be patient or simply to listen. Perhaps a smile, a genuine inquiry about our well-being or a phone call would be a way to connect. Person to person we need to take better care of each other. A kindness shown another can have more influence than we can imagine. Our actions can alter the course of history or simply make a difference by putting a silly smile on the face of another human being.

There are some simple actions that you can take to connect on this day - they may require no money. That do require your time - your presence - your attention - your caring. They require giving of yourself --- to someone else. How do you do that? Think about these ideas for tender loving care:

• TIME - Schedule time to be with someone your care about - and then truly BE with them. Just be a companion in any activity you enjoy sharing.

• LISTEN - Really listen with your ears, eyes, heart and mind. Listen to joys, sorrows, stories, questions. To many people, someone to listen to them would be an enormous gift of love.

• LAUGH - We take life so seriously. Instead chill out and take joy in the ordinary moments in life. Share both the silly little ditties and the huge, incredible, you'll- never-believe-this humorous stories. Giggle, chuckle, grin and enjoy!!

• GIVE WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT - Sometimes an empathetic word of encouragement is all people need to make a change. They need someone to support them to get through a tough time. If you believe in them it will help them to believe in themselves.

• GIVE A COMPLIMENT - Many people are unable to compliment themselves. They see their weaknesses, but they cannot see their strengths. Your genuine compliment will remind them of their value and worth. You can make their day.

• CALL SOMEONE - Who have you wondered about, wanted to talk to, or missed? Call them on Valentines Day and tell them how much they mean to you.

• THANK SOMEONE - Tell someone you appreciate, love, or admire that you are grateful to have them in your life. Let them know that your heart smiles when you think of them.

These are just a few of the many ways we can connect to others on Valentine's Day. Experiment with these and be creative in using other ideas. We can create miracles by connecting to each other with a loving energy. An open heart reaching out to another open heart creates a network for miracles that are passed forward. Valentines Day is not just for lovers, it is for loving each other.

Think about this crazy idea: What would happen if we carried this concept of loving each other beyond Valentine's Day? How many miracles could we create on a daily on-going basis? Maybe everyday could be Valentine's Day!!

There is another benefit to connecting. How many miracles will this level of giving create for you? If you feel you are a Valentine crumb instead of a heart-shaped wonder, stop the pity party, forget yourself and reach out to someone else. By giving your loving energy to others, you can give tender loving care and be a Valentine blessing to yourself as well.

Love and Blessings!!! Happy Valentine's Day!!!

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5 Mistakes Women Make With Men

Author: Elliot Beers

For some women, sustaining a worthwhile relationship with a man is almost like trying to win the lottery. They have no trouble talking to men or even dating them, but for whatever reason they can not build enough attraction from their partners to keep them coming back for more. Here are some mistakes women make that can send a man running in the opposite direction.

Too Much Information
While it is important to get to know the person you are dating, some women simply don't leave enough to the imagination. If you find yourself talking about family problems and old boyfriends on your first few dates, then chances are that you are guilty of revealing too much. The initial period of dating should be absolute bliss for both sides, and not dragged down by skeletons in the closet.

Not Enough Listening
It can be refreshing to meet new people and have the opportunity to share your opinions and dreams, just remember that your new man is also excited to the same. Taking control of the conversation or forcing your ideals on someone is not romantic. Make sure you provide adequate openings in your dialogue for responses. A simple way to make sure you are not taking over the spotlight is to ask your date questions. This will give them a chance to share their feelings without interrupting you.

Dishonesty
Some women become so self-conscious about themselves that they stretch the truth about everything from finances to outside interests. They want so badly to attract a good man that they believe saying what he wants to hear is the easiest route to take. Of course this strategy may work for the first few dates, but ultimately the truth will come out and you will be exposed. Being honest keeps your conscience clear and will help you meet someone with the same interests as you.

High Expectations
It is natural to be excited about the prospect of new love, but you have to be careful not to let expectations spoil the fun. Guys don't want to hear about your plans for marriage and family life early in a relationship. You have to attract them with your personality and charm before they will even consider a second date. The bottom line is to let things progress naturally. Not only can expectations eliminate a perfectly suitable candidate, but they take the spontaneity out of romance.

Controlling Yourself
The big secret to making a man want you is creating a curiosity or mystery about yourself. You want him to fantasize about you and wonder which direction your romance will take him. For this reason you need to lead him along slowly. Control your passions and keep him coming back for more. Be patient to see if he will wait for you. If he does then you know you have the beginning of a strong attraction.

There is good reason why some women consistently falter with men while others seem to catch them like fish. It is all about presentation and focusing on the natural male desires. This means making him feel good about himself and keeping him guessing on what your next move will be. Avoiding mistakes like talking too much and creating ridiculous expectations will give you the opportunity to set this strategy in motion.

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Dating Relationship:The One I Love Belongs to Somebody Else

Author: Daryl Campbell

You just walked into your favorite restaurant for lunch. You love the food but right now you have something else on your mind. You are expecting someone else to join you and here they are. Both of you greet each other warmly. From the first time you met on the job, there has been some intense attraction between the two of you.

You want to build on the emotions you are feeling and so does the other person; sort of. Why sort of? For the simple reason, they are already involved in a relationship with someone other than you.

This is nothing new. No doubt you have heard all those songs about falling in love with another person's wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend or whatever. The reality is it happens everyday and in most instances, like yours, both parties go into it with their eyes wide open.

Again they tell you they are involved with another person. You hear and understand but you still hold out hope that something will change the situation. You tell the other person, that they must feel the same way; otherwise they would not be here.

All of this maybe true but the best thing the both of you can is end it right here and now. You maybe the nicest person on the continent but in essence what you are doing is trying your best to break up a relationship just to satisfy yourself.

1. What if it was you?
It seems when people get involved in these situations they never stop to think what if the shoe was on the other foot. Let's say you are successful in breaking up their relationship and having the other person all to yourself. Fine but now they meet someone else who attracts them even more than you do. What then? You wind up in the same position as the first person. Karma can be quite nasty so if you do not want to be on the receiving end than it is best to let it go

2. Trust
The other person tells you they are engaged or seriously involved with someone else. So what are they doing there sitting next to you putting out feelers? Curb your emotions for a minute and think. Can you really trust someone who says they are in a committed relationship but is out looking for some action?

3. Wait
You both agree to pursue this further except that the other person cannot quite end their other relationship now. You give them the cornball line that, "you are willing to wait as long as it takes." The reality is nobody has that kind of time. Sure the two of you may get closer and more intimate but you are still the third wheel. As long as the other person remains in their relationship, you are sharing them. No matter how you feel now, this can get old very quickly.

4. The Explosion
It's bad enough sneaking around but now it gets back to the other person. No they are not going to do the "proper" thing and bow out gracefully. In fact they are ready to fight so as to keep the other person in the relationship but more importantly not to be made a fool of. Hurt pride is a powerful motivator. Are you willing to escalate the situation? Besides you really do not know what side of the fence the object of your affection will choose to stand on. You may wind up winning the battle and losing the war in a big way.

It is in your best interest to avoid getting involved with someone who is already in a committed relationship. There are plenty of people within your world who are unattached and looking to see if they can generate some chemistry with you. Maybe yes, maybe no. But involving yourself with someone who is already involved can take a major toll on everyone concerned especially you. The victory in most instances is not worth the price.

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Do you Know the Pros and Cons of Adult Online Dating?

Author: Agustin Patoval

Adult online dating services are a specialized niche in online dating, offering a number of similar features such as full searching capabilities and a large number of subscribers. Completely anonymous and secure, adult online dating services feature erotic personals, where one can view sexy photos of other members. Simply register and immediately contact any member via instant messaging, plus you can search or apply filters that allow you to narrow down the members that suit your specific needs and desires. Many adult online dating services allow all members to add a profile to the site, chat, send instant messages, and browse through their huge database of profiles for free. Guests may enter the site and browse around, but in order to post a listing or use all of the site features you must register as a member.

The benefits of adult online dating involve:

• The ability for less sexually experienced or shy personalities to express and explore their sexual nature.
• It is a safe secure environment to practice safe, virtual sex.
• The ability to feel comfortable with the cybersex partner due to the anonymous nature of the Internet and adult chatrooms.

Just as adult dating online has its set of advantages, there can be drawbacks to overindulgence. The dangers of adult dating services online, particularly pertaining to cybersex, involve:

• Not knowing the person you are dealing with - the Internet cannot screen the age or sex of participants, potentially causing ethical concerns.
• People can take online adult dating services too seriously and personally. Reports have been noted on cybersex addiction.
• Internet adult dating could potentially ruin your physical sex life due to the lack of anonymity in the physical space.
• It is not healthy to experience only online relationships as this will deter you from entering real physical relationships.

If and when you are ready to use this medium, weigh the pros and cons of adult online dating to ensure that both you and other members have an enjoyable and positive experience.


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Do’s and Don’ts of First Time Dates

Author: Love Whatever

It’s a very common problem for new people. They don’t really know how to react or how to behave perfectly on first date. In fact it all depends on the type of date it is. But regardless of the type of date a few things are common, which should be followed for a successful and long lasting relationship.

Some tips for guys:

• Try to be in your best possible mood at that special time.
• Dress smartly for the occasion; don’t be so formal, you are not going to appear for an interview.
• Never forget to buy some gift. It should not be too costly. The costly gifts may reflect your eagerness or your habit to show off your wealth.
• Choose a place where your partner can feel comfortable, never try to arrange your first day at an isolated place.
• Try to be a bit close to her by knowing her favourite things, favourite food, favourite music or similar not so important things. It can be helpful in judging her mood.
• Take care of her likes and dislikes; don’t force her for a drink which she doesn’t like.
• If possible don’t try to be physically too close to her, until you realize that she is interested for that.
• Try to know more about her, his family, his education, and friends.

Some tips for girls:

• Wear your favourite dress for the occasion; remember the dress should be appealing, not revealing your body.
• Before going on a date with a guy, try to know more about him. You can’t really trust over someone whom you never met.
• Never forget to buy some gift. Avoid precious gifts, it should reflect your emotion not your wealth.
• Agree for a public place only, if you agree for an isolated place then your partner can try to take undue advantage.
• Show that you really care for him, by asking some simple questions like her favourite things, favourite food, favourite music or similar not so important things. It can be helpful in judging his choices.
• If possible don’t try to be physically too close to him; it may build your negative image.

By following these tips, you can make your dates memorable. As time will pass you will discover several new things about your partner, that’ll make your dates better.

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