Friday, October 17, 2008

How To Avoid Being Annoying On a Date

These are just a couple pointers that you can follow so you don't end up annoying the hell out of somebody.

The list below describes some very annoying things that people do and often don't even realize they're doing it. read through the list to make sure you are not part of the problem.

  • Watch how long you control the conversation. It can quickly turn frustrating when you won't stop talking

  • For The Fellas: Be careful how often you are gazing at any of her "features" rather than keeping eye contact

  • Learn to control any nervous ticks immediately. Examples of this would be: foot tapping, pen clicking, funny style breathing, rocking/ swaying back & forth, etc...

  • Constantly laughing over what's NOT funny. Sooner or later you will come across as annoying when you do that.

  • Stop playin around on your "nobody cares" phone! No no no, I mean really... stop it! It's not cute, it's not making you cool, and it makes for a horrible conversation topic.

  • Everyone has problems of their own so no need to overload anyone with any of your hang ups.



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Tuesday, October 14, 2008

3 Ideal Dating Strategies

Whats up fellas! Once again, coming at you live and direct with dating advise that YOU need to know! I've gone ahead and put together a few attitudes (I've used the word attitude over strategy because these are things that you'll have to embody rather than just apply at will) that I think will be very helpful for those of you reading this expecting to get some advise that you can actually translate to the real world.
So without further ado, let's get into this.

  • A good attitude to take on while on a date is to appear relaxed yet interested. In other words you're not over anxious over the next words out her mouth, you sit back instead of lean forward, you even continue a side rhythm (ex: continue eating; continue quickly searching through phone; pretty much any non-heavily-focused activity), all the while you are able to summarize what she just told you and say it back to her in the form of a question ("so what you're saying is...?"). This will definitely give you a comfortable aura.

  • If you are not yet at the level where you can initiate humor on Q then play of her own words while she talks with you. This is to be done occasionally as it will quickly make you look like a lame adult boy who is more annoying than funny. However, when done at the right moments you can interject with a quick whip of humor to turn the conversation in your own direction. Also, catching her off guard with her words can go beyond humor if your skilled at spotting a double entrendes!

  • Learn to have NO fear of physical touch. As to what degree of "touch" you give yourself permission depends a lot on how you two vibe with each other. One thing is certain though, if you can show that you are fluid with your body movements and physical control of yourself (NOT making any movements out of nervousness) then you will display to her that you possess great poise, which she'll instantly pick up since many men are lacking that.


Monday, September 29, 2008

Three Common Relationship Mistakes to Avoid

Author: Aaron Adams



You've been going out with a great guy and spending time with him is always a treat. Many dates after, you begin to sense that it's the right time for the relationship to go to the next level. The problem is knowing how to start the conversation. Every time you try to open up, the reaction's always the same. He starts to fidget and you can sense he's uncomfortable. Before you know it, he drifts farther and farther away.


The more you worry about it the more he thinks that you're changing. He thinks that maybe you're not interested in him anymore because you seem to be distant and always thinking about something else. Then he holds back and when he does, you think that maybe he's not interested in you anymore. You start questioning him over the little things he does. His calls are not as frequent as before and he visits you less often. He thinks you're worried over nothing so he'll step away from the relationship thinking that that's the best solution.

To avoid that familiar scene, here's a few tips to help you avoid committing the usual relationship mistakes.

Mistake #1: Not knowing how his mind works. It's easy for women to assume that they're in an exclusive relationship after a few dates. He, on the other hand, thinks that he's just having a grand time with a wonderful woman.

You need to know how his mind works to clearly communicate with him what you expect in the relationship and how you want those expectations met. He doesn't want someone who is needy and clingy. A woman who can't survive on her own isn't someone he'd want to be with for a long time.

Mistake #2: Making the "big mistake." Thinking about your needs, but never about his own, is the big mistake. Although meeting our needs first is our basic nature, this won't work in a relationship. You have to take the limelight away from you momentarily and focus on what his needs are. Do this and you're sure to benefit from it in the future.

Learn to understand your boyfriend's dreams and desires; know what frustrates and discourages him. Patiently deal with his shortcomings and before you know it, you're on your way to enjoying the relationship that you've been wanting. But don't give him everything to the point that you'll be trampled on. Learn the delicate balance of giving.

Mistake #3: Talk, but also listen. It's very easy to commit the big mistake, so learn how not to. Men are generally not born conversationalists. Taking part in a conversation about relationships and serious emotions isn't their cup of tea. So it's up to you to know what works in keeping the lines of communication open.

The best solution to keep your man interested in a long term relationship with you is to know what their strengths are and knowing how to magnify those. Who wants to be always reminded of their failures, right? Make him feel that he's on top of your priority list and you'll be pleasantly surprised how he'll love you even more.


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Friday, September 26, 2008

Finding Fulfilling Relationships

Author: Aaron Adams


What's the use of being in a relationship when you don't find satisfaction and fulfillment in it? The fire of the romance is always strong in the beginning, but as time goes by, that roaring fire turns into ashes. The sad reality is that a lot of women go through the motions of having a relationship but never finding fulfillment in the end.

If you think that you belong to the statistics, then there could only be two reasons - you're not doing the right thing and that pushes him away, or he's unavailable emotionally. Worse, it could be both.

Are you even aware that you could be doing something wrong? Smart women commit these mistakes without really knowing that they are.

Giving him everything he wants is one mistake that should be avoided. If he says that he wants to see you and you automatically say yes, or if he wants to go to bed with you in the early stages of the relationship and you say yes, then you are telling him that you are easy and not worth pursuing.

Women think that giving in all time will make him stay. On the contrary - he would think that you are predictable and boring. When you get boring and bland, he would look someplace else to find that spice that he wants in the relationship. Imagine watching the same scene in your favorite movie over and over again. You'll eventually get tired and want to watch something else, even if it is your favorite movie, right?

The other reason is his emotional unavailability. Men who are like this are interested in casual dating and playing the game, but aren't interested in going for a longer and more stable relationship. Emotionally unavailable men head for the nearest exit when the talk about commitment and marriage comes.

So if you want to find a fulfilling relationship, don't be the easy-to-get woman and steer clear from men who are emotionally unavailable. Could there be a possibility of turning an emotionally unavailable man to someone who is? It's easy when you know how.

The first answer lies in you. Identify the things that you do that push him farther away. Do you complain too much and nag him to submission? Or do you try to convince him to love you, or that he's better off with you? If you are, STOP. You can't change your boyfriend directly, and telling him to change will just hasten the process of him leaving you.

Instead, like who you are and be sure of yourself. Women tend to nag when they feel insecure or unsure of themselves. The verbal manifestation of insecurities is nagging. Nobody is perfect, and your boyfriend knows you aren't, so accept your insecurities and work on improving your weak points. Who wouldn't fall in love with someone who can honestly admit their shortcomings and be brave enough to try to change them?

Lastly, play hard to get. Men are attracted to smart, level-headed and interesting women. He is drawn to a woman who can tickle him pink and would keep them on their toes because of her unpredictability. Arouse his curiosity of what you can offer and he keep him guessing every time. He will love you more and definitely want to stay in a relationship with you.


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Tuesday, September 16, 2008

What Men Want From Their Date

Author: Rodrigo Rehn


Most of the men think in a similar manner about their dates. This is the reason why understanding the psychology of men id the right way to reach their heart and win over them. The women knows a lot of tricks to impress their men but this is an important fact that if you are not really aware of their expectations or demands then you are already one step behind which is not a good idea at all.

So try and find out some ways to know about common men and then gradually go for the kill which is all about winning your date. You can come across a number of women who have tried out pleasing their dates according to their methods which have not worked. And some of them has got rid of the age old taboo of pleasing the men to keep them adhered to women.

Know what they want from you

The first thing that any man will look for in his date is love and passion. Many of you must be in a notion that the men are not really bothered about being loved. But this is a wrong idea as they also crave for love just the way you do. But this is not easy to become caring and loving as well as showing it in a right manner. Try and show them how you feel about him. Now this is a general fact that no man on the earth will like to have a date who is obese or underweight. Yes, looks do matter.

Not because men are shallow by nature but they are human beings and like to flaunt a beautiful or at least decent girl hanging from their arm. Men are not really careless about faithfulness. They do care a lot for to the fact that their date is a trustworthy person. No man will like it if you being his date lie to him about anything. If you feel like telling him something which he might not like try a passive way but do not lie.

Most of the men like the women who are affectionate and feminine because they often look for a potential wife and a good homemaker for themselves. This is the reason why you should not show off that you are a daring and bold person if you are not that type.

So now you know the key elements that almost all men will look in their date who can be their future life partner. Get some changes done in your approach and see the difference. They will love the new appeal in you and choose you as the most perfect date of their life.


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Sunday, September 14, 2008

Why Do Women Break Up With Men?

Author: Anastacia H


Do you understand what a woman is thinking in their mind? Why do women break up with men when men never do anything unfaithful? Women are very sensitive and delicate people. It can be of any reasons to break up with a man but it just whether the man can realize the problem existed or not.

Here are the common reasons why do women break up with men:

1. Too Possessive

Possessive guys are always the jealous and clingy type. The guys get paranoid over small issues and get upset or angry whenever their girlfriend talk to a man. Possessive guys want to know every little movement that the girlfriend is doing and may even control her life. All these actions can cause the girlfriend to feel stressful and unhappy. The guy is as good as taking away her freedom.

2. Lack of care and concern

Guys who belong to this category tend to be very busy. They do not seem to be bothered about what their girlfriend is doing. The guy would rather spend more time to do work, family or friends and not giving enough attention and concern to the girlfriend. The guy will take advantage of the situation thinking that the relationship is suppose to be this way. When the girlfriend feel lonely or unhappy with the relationship, she will just seek for her friend's company or even find another lover.

Love need time, care and concern to nurture. To keep a good relationship need both of you to work hard together. Most of the time women break off with men over common reasons like I mentioned here, it may not always be the case that she fall in love with someone who is richer or better looking. If you still love your girlfriend and want to win her heart back, you should do something to improve the relationship now.


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Friday, September 12, 2008

Dating After Divorce…two Words for Ya

Author: Kim Hess


What’s worse than being a 30 something year old woman out in the dating world trying to find her perfect soul mate? Being a 30 something year old woman out in the dating world trying to find her second perfect soul mate who doesn’t mind that she’s divorced, unemployed, and has two young kids that he’ll have to pretend to find charming and delightful. What could be worse than that? Oh, I’ve got something worse than that…

Let’s start with the dating scene. I’ve been out of it for a good twelve years, so when my single friends complained about the state of dating and relationships I just thought they needed to quit whining and make some more effort. And maybe lose 5 lbs. And do something with that God-awful haircut they’ve had for the last 15 years. But I digress. Smug in my perfect marriage, with my perfect husband and my perfect children, I was conceited enough to look down upon the lonely masses and breathe a sigh of relief that I was not one of them. And then it happened.

The D word. Divorce. My perfect husband came crashing down, ripping my perfect marriage down with him like some bad soap opera actor tearing down the lush silk dining room curtains in a drunken rage. But this was no soap opera (I wish it was because then I could have shot him, suffered from amnesia, ran off to a deserted island, been pronounced dead in a shipwreck, and miraculously come back with a nice tight face lift and perky boobs…but I digress again!)

So what’s a girl to do? More importantly what’s a divorced girl with two kids under ten to do? Two words for ya…ONLINE DATING.

Now, I know, I know, you’ve all heard the horror stories about online dating: the men have combovers, are ugly, and sex freaks, the women are desperate, fifty pounds overweight with names like Shirley Ann who post pictures from ten years ago (in case there are any Shirley Ann’s in the audience, I think that is a perfectly classy and beautiful name). Well I am here to tell you these horror stories are wrong, WRONG I tell you! I met a wonderful, sexy, man from France who took me to expensive restaurants, appreciated fine wine, and could speak articulately about literature, world events, and global warming and the affect it’s having on innocent bunny rabbits. Then he dumped me and I quickly found out that those horror stories are all TRUE, every last one of them!

So as not to send you screaming into the night, I’ll give a brief synopsis of what I’ve encountered in one (yes, just ONE) month of online dating. The first date after my heart was smashed by Frenchie was a tall cute Indian guy who is an engineer. So far so good. We got drinks, talked about business, and world events, nice guy. He could be the one. Second date: Walk along the beach and more great conversation. About him. And his job. And how much money he made. And how he had enough money in his portfolio to retire today at 36. Yeah, I thought all this was great and wonderful, but why didn’t he take me to lunch. Nothing fancy, just a burger, a nice salad. Know what I got? A cup of coffee. A freakin’ six hour date and all I got was a cup of coffee! Oh, we did stop at McDonalds, but that was to get another cup of coffee…for him. 6 sugars, 6 creams. No lie. Now I love lots of sugar and cream but c’mon be a man!

Second date: Neurotic 51 year old Jewish ex-stockbroker. Great body, but kept talking about his ex wife’s shoe collection. Third date: Divorced, 38 year old lawyer. He kept talking about his ex-wife’s new boyfriend and how he wasn’t jealous. Fourth date: married swinger, another lawyer. No comment necessary. Fifth date: 48 (defiantly lying about his age) entrepreneur who couldn’t keep his hands off of me 30 minutes into our date and kept telling me how black chicks were hot. (He was a white South Afrikan, must have been some residual apartheid guilt). The dating blitz continues… (my heart was broken, cut me some slack)! Sixth date: a hot, hot, hot 24 year old. Unfortunately he was also dumb, dumb, dumb, wanted me to meet his mom, plan our wedding and adopt my kids all by next week. What kind of 24 year old is this? Rounding out my dating rodeo was a bi-sexual artist, a beefed up real estate broker who kept bragging about some land he bought behind Paris Hilton’s house, and a city commissioner who had his six year old daughter call me the day after our first date to ask if I could be her new mommy. Needless to say, she didn’t get a call back!

So, what is a divorced girl with two kids under the age of ten to do? Two words for ya…STAY HOME!

But seriously, fellow divorcees, I know it’s tough advice but please don’t go through what I went through. Stay home, work on you, love you, treat you right, and that special someone will come along to sweep you off your feet. Sweep yourself off your own feet first by realizing how awesome you are…and don’t date married swingers!


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Wednesday, September 10, 2008

How to Talk About Money in a Relationship

Author: Marius Gherghinescu


In every relationship, at a certain moment, there is talking about issues that are not pleasant but inevitable. When it comes to money, everybody has his/her own ideas and priorities. She wants latest fashion; he wants to fix his car. She wants to go to the beauty parlor, he wants to buy a bike or have a mortgage.

In conclusion, it is a fact that talks about money are delicate so here are some tips to engage in such a discussion in a natural manner:

1. Give time to the discussion

It does not mean that you need to select a precise day for "talking about money" but you need to think about a period of time and a previous preparing. You must know what are the main issues, how to direct the talking and draw a conclusion.

2. Do not totally impose yourself

It is a fact that you have different plans of how to use money, but this does not mean that your opinions are better or your investments are more successful. Anyhow, no matter how good your ideas are, you don't have to forget that the talk is not about your money only but the money you get together.

3. Be flexible

If she has an idea about an investment, don't say "no" without even listening to her. Listen to her, to her ideas, have some of your own, better ones, and everything will be Ok. Do not get stubborn to prove she is wrong especially when you make it out of pride.

4. Do not get bossy

Even if you are office manager, do not get imposing. If you come home and say "this money will be enough", it will not be Ok. Maybe you will not get a drastic reaction, but she definitely will want to spend all you've got. Talking about money is as serious as all other problems that appear in your relationship. No matter how great love is, it can be fragile.

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Monday, September 8, 2008

5 Signs You are Under the Net

Author: Marius Gherghinescu


You are fed up with the jokes your mates make about you saying you are completely under your girlfriend's influence but maybe there is a bit of truth in this. Read the following statements and find out if she is bossy and learn how to be in charge.

1. If you go to have a beer, you need permission

If you want to go out with the boys, you need first to have her approval and you accept it. You do not need to ask for permission, you only need to tell her this. She does not ask for permission when she goes out with her friends.

2. She makes decisions for you

''Today you wear this shirt, the blue tie with strips and leave at 9 a.m.'' How does this sound? Do you tell her how to use make-up, what to wear and what time to come back? It is a lack of respect to decide for you.

3. She makes appointments

She takes you to social events or makes appointments at the dentist for you, without asking, saying she knows what is best for you. You need to take rapid action and impose yourself.

4. You are afraid of her reactions

Every time you step out of the line, you ask yourself what she might think about it. More than that, you are afraid she might get angry because you talked on the phone for 15 minutes, for coming home too late or for telling that you don't like the food she cooked.

5. You avoid contradicting her

…even when you are convinced you are right. She has you under control and turned you into ''mama's boy'', the one that needs to be good. My friend, you need to take some action. Do not become the one who has the last word but you need to get respect and not be manipulated.


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Saturday, September 6, 2008

Face to Face With the Other Woman in His Life

Author: Marius Gherghinescu


You had suspicions that there is another woman but you have the proof now...evidence is clear: he hides from you, comes late all the time finding all sorts of excuses, his skin smells unusual, and his gestures lack the tenderness and passion that they used to have.

You are more furious and desperate to find out why he did this to you, how many times until now? You want to know if this is his first cheating and more than that, you wish to see her, that woman that entered your relationship without her knowing it. You want to know how she looks like, if she is prettier, smarter, more self-assured, if she deserves him more. And yes, you want to face her, to see the woman who took your man and made you miserable, who is now happy having him, his attention, tenderness and passion. You are mad that she stole these things from you and she had no right to do so.

But if you think well, this is his fault. He is the one who assured you of his love, he is the one that made future plans, the one that said he would like lots of children that resemble you. He is the one that, contrary to his promises, cheated on you and let another woman in his life.

Maybe she doesn't even know that you exist, maybe she loves him as much as you do. It would be childish to have a confrontation. What could you say to him? Nothing…maybe what he does to you will repeat itself with her. Anyway, what you will say and do will not change his deed and will not make you happier, you will not feel liberated. The bitter taste of such an experience is not easily passed over and will not vanish away even if you confront him.

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Thursday, September 4, 2008

Things That She Does not Need to Find Out

Author: Marius Gherghinescu


Although the key to success is communication, it is not advisable to tell her everything that bothers you or tell about your past relationships in detail. There are things that belong to the past and need to stay there. In general it may not be a good idea to tell her from the beginning that you initiated the date only because you were bored and not totally attracted by her. These issues may damage your intimacy and create trouble. There are also topics that need to be kept away from your potential date.

1. You are dependent on your mother

Your loved one does not need to know that you lived with your parents until recently only because it was comfortable to have your mother close to you. No woman will accept a man depending on his mother's care. If you tell her this, she will start thinking that your mother can influence your relationship with her.

2. Things that your mates do

If you have close friends that like to do crazy stuff, do not inform your potential girlfriend about it. If they want to go to a strip bar, she will not be happy and may become frightened about the ideas your friends can place in your mind.

3. The excess of porn movies

Your potential girlfriend does not want to know how many porn movies you watch a week, so spare the details. Maybe she is not disturbed too much but she can ask herself questions like: ''Do I satisfy him?'', ''Does he have a fetish?'' or ''Is he mentally deranged?"

4. You liked her girlfriend before

…but because she said: ''No way!'' you turned to her instead. Even if you realize now that it was the best choice possible, such a confession can make your present relationship dysfunctional. No woman would ever like to be second choice; she would not think this is a funny event or just fate.


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Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Avoid The Monotony Of Dating

Author: Rodrigo Rehn


In todays world most of the guys and girls start their dating life quite early. They start meeting people from a very young age and gradually master the art of dating before they reach the age of twenty. This continues with a great enthusiasm for another few years. But slowly the boredom creeps in as they grow little older and this is all because of an early start and too many experiences.

They keep meeting new people frequently since they were teenagers and gradually this becomes a habit to meet new people. Chatting over the phone, Meeting them in different places, exchanging e-mails, buying gifts all become monotonous at one particular point of time. The reason is that people get tired of being single and getting into small term relationships again and again.

This is very tough to select the right person in life and almost everybody is aware of this fact. This is the reason why they all have their long lists of likes and dislikes and they want to get a partner who will fit into their frame for Mr. Right perfectly. But this is in realty an absurd idea. There is no human being on the earth that is just perfect from all aspects.

You should not go for 10 dates a week just because you feel that all ten of them are missing at least one point and should be rejected because of this. This mindset of yours will soon drag you to severe dating fatigue. Look for a person with whom you are comfortable and would like to share your feelings. The outlook of that individual should match with yours.

The other two important factors are sense of humor and background of that particular person. If all of these are moderately or perfectly okay then be rest assured that he or she is the right person for you.

How to avoid the monotony of dating?

The best way to do so is knowing yourself well. If you are confirm what exactly you are looking for in your date then the chances are high that you will keep on dating with quite a number of people but never find the right person. If you feel that the person you are dating is not suitable for you then tell him or her clearly after one or two dates.

This will not only save you from dating fatigue but also save their time. Being single for too long will also build despair in you and dating will seem to be the most boring thing on earth. Hence as soon as you find someone good and compatible with you, make sure you are knotted into a marriage which will save you from those boring moments.


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Friday, August 29, 2008

How to Get the Girl of Your Dreams!

Author: Kelly Purden

There she is: that beautiful, luscious creature walking gracefully ahead of you - and you could probably walk behind her for the rest of your life if you had too. One major advice here: if you want to know how to get the girl of your dreams, then quit acting like a stalker and do something productive!

We know. We know. The one reason you have for reading this article is that she is a dream girl, and you are no dream boat - a boat maybe, (depending on the size of your waist) but certainly not one that can encourage Cupid to pluck arrows for you when the lady in question passes by. It may sound a bit absurd but becoming a Brad Pitt look-alike (and having as much income) is definitely not the only way on how to get the girl of your dreams.

Incredibly, with all the great looking guys out there, who have fatter wallets and more expensive cars, some really G-O-R-G-E-O-U-S women end up with the typical guy next door. Here are some no-brainer tips on how to get the girl of your dreams to at least notice you.

1. One way on how to get the girl of your dreams is to just stock up on courage and just approach her, gently - and not with a stalker-like attitude too. Don't plunk down a large cup of Starbucks' Banana Chocolate Smoothie on her table just because you know that she orders one every lunch time; or worse, get her that vintage lace dot top pair of stockings she's been meaning to buy (just because you overheard her on her cell phone.) This will most definitely not encourage her to be friendly towards you. In fact, you just might drive her out of town.

Start gently. Like our guy Ray. Ray, a very shy guy, always saw this leggy brunette walking past his apartment building in the morning and just before dinner (and yeah, he watched her when she went out at night.) For the next few days he would time his "encounters" with her and offer her a smile, a nod, or one of his famous "eyebrow greetings." Soon he was saying good morning to her, giving her a wave from afar and commenting about the weather. After a month of just being the "friendly guy," he just took the horse by the balls (or is that bull by the horns?) and asked her a very simple, "how are you, today?"

That opened the way for more formal introductions, and yes, they've been going out for some time now. He not only gets to buy her Starbucks' smoothies, but lacey stockings as well.

2. Another sane advice on how to get the girl of your dreams to notice you is to make yourself as physically appealing as possible. No, we are not recommending you go the whole hog and have your entire face and body surgically enhanced to look like Brad Pitt. Girls, as a rule, like to look at guys who seem as if they know the words, "shower," "deodorant" and "shave." Unless you think that being bohemian at your age is attractive, (how many girls are approaching you for dates, we wonder?) it would be best to approach (or show yourself to) your dream girl looking really nice and smelling good as well. You can look presentable in a pair of jeans and a shirt, you know.

And don't try masking smelly feet and bad breath with gallons of cologne and breath mints too! Those a definite turn offs!

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Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Teen Dating - A Safe Place For Teens!

Author: Kelly Purden

Undoubtedly, in the net today, there are so many teens that are also looking for love. For some parents this circumstance can be nerve-racking especially if the person your teenager is dating a stranger. Teenagers are usually vulnerable and impulsive that is why if they are not properly guided when it comes to teen dating techniques, most probably they will end up miserable. But as a parent, no need for you to worry anymore because there are so many techniques that you can do so your teenager can have a safe and fun teen dating experience.

Today, there are so many dating sites that cater the adults; however, there are also teen dating sites where the young adults can join. This is one of the safest ways to enjoy teen dating especially if you are the kind of person who is not yet ready for serious dating. Online teen dating can be fun because you get to talk to your prospect date without the fear of getting close physically to him. When you are on an online teen dating site and chatrooms, it is important that you say your age honestly because if you state your true age, and when the people you are chatting with will know that you are just a teenager, chances are they will treat you well for fear that they will be in trouble if they do otherwise.

Teen dating should not be tricky nowadays because there are so many cool places that your teenagers can go to in order for them to have the most memorable date of their life. If you want to keep it safe and fun at the same time, the best way to achieve this is to have double dates. Ask some of your trusted friends to go with you on dual date. And when it comes to spots where to go, one of the best choices is the public park. In Public Parks there is a good chance that your date will not do something bad towards you because there are so many people around you.

Another place that is safe when it comes to teen dating is in your own home. It is very beneficial not only for your teenager but for you as well because you will not have to stress yourself thinking about them while they are gone. The parents can be able to supervise the activities that the teens are doing. Teenagers can do a lot of things in their house; if you like baking, ask your date to lend you a hand as you embark on your baking endeavor. This way, you will also find out if the person you are dating will be a good boyfriend.

Teen dating stage is an important event of anyone's life that's why it should be given extra attention because if the parents fail to address some of the problems that are associated in teen dating, it could end in a miserable situation. There are so many possibilities that could go wrong if the teen dating process goes wrong.

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Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Learning the Dynamics of Dating

Author: Marvin Perry

Dating is a social ritual practiced by two equally interested individuals who want to explore each other's personalities. It involves the various processes of seeking a prospective date, setting the date, and finding a match. Dating, like all human activities that involve the affairs of the heart, also involves risks. People on a date can end up hurting each other through misunderstanding and, ultimately, rejection.

So why then do people still want to go on dates? What is the purpose of dating?

Since time immemorial, dating has been regarded as part of the human necessity to mate. Sociologists and anthropologists have made different studies that prove how dating is almost indispensable in man and woman's quest to become one. In essence and according to science, dating - and the sex that is expected from it - drives the male and female species to come out and satisfy their natural hunger. For the romantics, sex is not much of an issue and dating is perceived as a wonderful way to find romance and everlasting love. Sex or no sex, dating is a popular activity among men and women, especially these days when society is more liberated.

The individual reasons for dating will vary from one person to another. It depends upon a person's values, beliefs, culture, and needs. For most people, dating is a means to find, if not love, at least companionship. The thought of spending your entire life alone is enough to drive most people crazy. While financial needs are becoming heavy nowadays, it is love and friendship that most people will readily trade their money for. The need to interact with another human is embedded within the core of our humanity, and the prospect of meeting someone who can take a genuine interest in and love for us is irresistible. These are the driving forces of the dating scene, then and now.

In seeking a date, it's important to know exactly what you're looking for in a partner. This way, you won't waste time with people who are not suitable for your taste and personality. These days, you can find several websites that offer online dating. You may also place ads in magazines and newspapers. Some traditional sources for finding a date include your friends and family. They may know a great person who is looking for someone with your characteristics.

Setting a date is easy once you've found a prospect. For blind dates, as well as eyeballs, it's best to choose a venue that's filled with people so you can better protect yourself from possible danger.

Finding a match is the hard part. Most people will usually go on many dates before finding their soul mate - the person who is their ideal match. With patience and the right attitude, you too can find true love with dating. In the meantime, learn to enjoy dating and have fun on all the dates you choose to have. Dating, after all, is an exciting part of life.

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Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Alternatives to Communication

Author: Mike Scantlebury

There are many ways to communicate, but there are even more ways to fail to communicate. The most important of these I call, 'The Curse of FaceBook'. It's a mysterious thing, and, on the face of it, should never happen. After all, Social Networking sites are all about 'communication', in the widest sense. How could they lead to non-communication? Or worse, misunderstandings and antagonism?

The first problem is the very ease with which communications are possible on sites like FaceBook. While enjoying a session on your page, you can 'nudge' a friend; write a comment on their 'Wall'; send them a message or comment on something they have up. In all, it may be that when you leave and log off, there are several 'communications' that have passed between you. When your friend logs on, which do they choose to reply to? That's the first problem. It's as though you've written your friend a letter; sent them an email; a text; left them a message on their answerphone; and passed on a message via a mutual friend. There are now five actual 'communications' that need a reply. If you fail to get one - even just one out of the five - there is an opportunity to feel slighted and undervalued. Same with FaceBook. Even if your pal has commented on your comment, and replied to your reply, then you will still be looking to see if they've noticed your note on their Photos page. No matter how detailed and precise the first of these replies might be, you've already set yourself up to fail. There's a good chance, a very good chance, that your friend's replies won't match yours in terms of numbers or enthusiasm, in which case, you're disappointed. But this is what happens; lots of people join FaceBook, but their enthusiasm varies. Some visit the site every day, some once a week. It's not as though you're working in the same office as these pals from your past and see them every day. It's not as though they are still fellow students at your University any more. They have more in their lives now, other priorities. If you're a keen FaceBooker, you're bound to feel let down that everyone else is not as addicted as you.

The second problem is that hidden in that storm of chatter, there might actually be a significant point. Unfortunately, it's going to get lost. I know this to my cost. I have written a paragraph that talks about what fun we had last year; how wonderful the weather is; how great it would be to do it all again; and when are we going to meet up? It's only the last point that needs an answer: often, it never arrives. I'm upset. That was an actual question. Look, I'm saying, when are you going to be in town next? They've replied, oh, sure they have, and told me about their weather and the problems with their car and children. But try as I might, I can't find an answer to my specific query. That's the problem with social networking: it's vague, it's rambling, it's cheerful but not direct. It's like a bunch of people having a chat down the pub. How easy is it to say, 'Hold on, guys. What time are we leaving for the party?' How easy is it to get people to address the question over the hubbub? You need one thing that the pub (and the Social Network) can't offer: you need focus. It just isn't there.

There's a third way in which the whole system can jam up. The fervent FaceBooker logs on, makes some comments, asks some questions and makes some cheeky points. They log on the next day, eagerly looking for feedback. Suppose there isn't any? Now we have a new problem. The regular Networker starts to get impatient. After all, they have things to say, points to make. They have made comments and want comments back. When they don't get any, they irritatedly start to make more. That's when things really start to get confusing. It happened to me: after a week, a so-called 'friend' of mine eventually got round to looking at their FaceBook page. At that juncture, they were faced with four messages from me. They decided to answer them all at once. What happened? The inevitable; they didn't actually answer any of the vital questions. They commented on the weather; made some cracks about schools; quipped about their job; and complained about money. That bit - the vital bit - about meeting up, was lost.

It's as though your really are down the pub and everyone else is blind drunk. Sure, you can have a laugh. Sure, you can chat about the 'old times' and kid yourself what a great thing it all was. What you can't do is the one thing that is the essence of communication: you can't get a straight answer to a straight question. Ask yourself, if you came back from holiday and found 71 messages in your email box, how likely is it that you would be able to make a coherent reply to each and every one? But that's what 'Social Networking' is all about. You've got a bunch of people clamouring for your attention, each one with some point that is vital to them, (but only to them), and each person wants you - YOU - to laugh along with them, smirk with them, commiserate with them. You're being bullied and badgered and you try and put a smile on your face and grin and bear it. Oh, and that question? Sorry, what did you say? I didn't hear you. What was it? You want something? Was there a point? You were trying to say -

Social Networks are a great thing. They put you 'in touch' with people you may not see, or may not have seen for a long time. You can chat and grin with them. But don't expect to 'communicate'. For that, you need to concentrate, focus, and establish real contact. If you were on the phone to them, you would be saying things like, 'Sorry, I missed that', or 'Could you repeat that last bit?' You would be clarifying, discovering details, going over and over something. Try as I might, I can't find a way to make that happen with the websites. They promise to put you in touch, and it's fine as long as you're simply shouting 'Hello'. As soon as you actually want to say something important, well, the junk, the static, the interference, all gets in the way. It's ironic; the new networks promise more communication, but all they deliver is people vigorously waving at each other, smiling and saying 'Hello'. The amount of real, personal interaction is minimal.

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Ladies - Does Your Ex Still Have Feelings For You? Watch For These 3 Signs!

Author: Al Butler


OK, you have broken up with your ex whether he was your boyfriend, your husband or lover. Things have been a little shaky, you have had problems moving on or you just do not want to give up on the relationship.

You know that you still love your ex but you are wondering does your ex still have feelings for you. You want him back but you do not know if he also wants to get back together with you.

You may think men are hard to read when it comes to their feelings and emotions. Yes, we try to keep our emotions in check, but we tend to revert to child-like ways of showing we have feelings for the opposite sex. This is also true in the case we still have feelings for our ex love.

You are looking for some signs that the man you love want to revive the relationship that made both of you so happy in the past. You just want signs that will give you hope, hope that if you both can be back together and once again share your life together.

I am going to list three signs of many that you need to watch for that will give you a hint that your ex still have feelings for you.

3 Signs-Does Your Ex Still Have Feelings For You?

1. Your Ex is Showing Off in Front of You.

No, he may not be doing cartwheels like a child in front of you.

What he will do though is brag about something is he doing or something that makes him look good. He wants your admiration, he wants the same feelings you showed him in the beginning of your relationship. That is a very important sign that he still have feelings for you.

2. Is There a Spark in His Eyes?

Did you notice a "spark" in his eyes when you both started dating?

The next time you talk to your ex face to face, look at his eyes. Do you see the same spark, do you notice his eyes are following you around, is his eyes "smiling"?

It is amazing what a man eyes will tell you when he does not know you are observing them.

The eyes are a "peephole" into a man feelings.

3. Does He Show Up "Accidentally" Where You Are?

If you looking for an obvious sign does your ex still have feelings for you, then this is it.

He is showing up at your regular "hang-outs" because he still has feelings for you and wants to rekindle the relationship. Your regular "hang-outs" could be anywhere that he knows you will be such as the grocery store, mall, park, etc.

The big question is not "does your ex still have feelings for you", but do you want to get back with your ex. If that is the case, then you need a strategy or plan to get your ex back. It is possible to get back with your ex and be happy again!

Friday, August 8, 2008

How Can Single Parents Benefit From Online Dating

Author: Billy Baker

For those single parents looking for romance again, online dating can be a great option. Many single dads and moms can be challenged for time, cash, and babysitters. Many do not have the energy or time to go through the motions of single bars to try and find a date. A big night out in a bar can well end up costing a new outfit, parking or cab fares, drinks, plus the babysitter. Of course this is money well spent if you happen to meet Mr or Ms Right. However, repeat this scenario too many times and the dollars soon start to add up.

Compared to singles bars and the like, online dating for single parents has many advantages:

* Greater numbers. Think about it, there are more listed dating singles on good reputable dating sites than any one singles bar or party. Firstly, many of them, like you, may be stuck at home with their children. Baby sitters may be difficult for both of you to get. Another benfit is your timing can be after the children are in bed or watching the tube.

* Generally genuinely single. Most people who go to the time and trouble to sign up to a dating service are genuinely looking for romance. There will be less rogues than in your local singles bar on internet dating and of course your in a position to choose and screen up front.

* Weed out the duds. Why waste your precious time on those you aren't attracted to? After a few online chats you should be able to start getting a sense of whether the pair of you want to meet in person.

* Can communicate easily. One of the greatest advantages of online dating is that you are not competing with loud music and background noise. You should also not be having to compete with you children wanting your attention either. You will have a chance to read profiles, replies and questions without too many distractions.

* Time effective. Single parent online dating is extremely beneficial for those pushed for time. By the time it takes to make yourself a coffee and clean your teeth, you may have already found yourself a potential date.

* Cost effective. The cost of using a dating site are insignificant compared to clubbing and going out in pursuit of a possible meeting. The money you spend on babysitters, outfits, drinks, and travel, will be to actually meet someone that you have already spent time getting to know online.

* Convenient. All parents become good at time management. If you can only manage to chat online or answer replies at 10pm when the washing machine is on and the children are all in bed, well then so be it. Online dating is hard to beat from a convenience point of view. Also, if you're not looking your best, have a pimple on your nose, shaving cuts or a bad hair day, no-one will know. Take that Bridget Jones.

* Select Profiles. If there are important characteristics you are keen to have in your next partner, or personalities you may not want to revisit, you have plenty of chances with online dating to select from the style of person you would prefer. Another benefit is that you may well be more sober and lucid in your lounge room than in a singles bar when making character judgements.

Single parent internet dating may as well have been invented for the single parent looking for a date. The bigger obstacles such as time, money and a sitter are eliminated while you go through the search process. You may like to save yourself even more time and trouble and head to this site dedicated to reviewing dating sites.

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Tuesday, August 5, 2008

How to Write a Convincing Profile- 8 Easiest Ways to Catch the Attention of Potential Matches

Author: Clarence Lee

On a dating website, your profile is everything. It's the first thing a potential match sees and will ultimately decide if they want to contact you. Here are some tips on how to create a winning profile.

1.Put up as much information as you're comfortable with

The more people know about you, the better they understand what you're like and what you want in a relationship. It's a chance to see if your personalities are compatible or if you have similar interests. A more in-depth profile could be the difference between a member contacting you or moving on to the next match.

2.Put up a good, and recent, photo

You want to look your best, but putting up a photo that's ten years old is going to most likely disappoint your match should you meet in person and make it difficult for them to trust you. It's also tempting to post a picture that has been airbrushed or photo manipulated, but that will also be misleading.

You'll want to use a photo that accentuates your good features. Also, make sure that it's just you in the photo. Posting a photo of you posing with 10 friends will make it difficult to pick you out from the crowd.

Updating your picture is important as well. If you're a natural blonde and you show up for a first date that you've never met before, with your hair bright red, it can be surprising and also confusing. If someone is looking for a blonde then they'll probably skip over a red head and continue looking for their date.

3.List not only your interests, but things that you also want to try

If you love to swing dance then put that up on your profile. If you list other types of dance that you'd like to try, then a member that loves to salsa might contact you to see if you want to try some salsa dancing on Friday night.

However, you have to be honest about what you'd be interested in trying. If you notice that someone you're interested in likes to do things outdoors, don't edit your profile and say that you do too if you really don't. It would be disappointing for your date and frustrating for you if you ended up taking part in an activity that you dislike.

4.Be honest about what you want in a relationship

One of the worst things that can happen is when you meet someone you like and you only find out later that you're not on the same page. If you state what you're looking for and what you're not looking for the other members know right up front. It's also okay to write that you're unsure.

5.Location, location, location

Make sure you know how far you're willing to go for a date and limit your matches to that. Meeting someone you like is wonderful, but you'll go broke if you have to drive an hour just to go see a movie. If you're interested in an long distance relationship then be sure to include that in your profile. But make sure that it's clear to your potential matches that the relationship will be long distance.

6.Voice intro or video

Only do this if you're comfortable with it, don't feel as if you have to. If you make the video or voice recording, speak slowly and clearly. Say something inviting that isn't on your profile. You don't want to repeat what you've already stated. This is a chance for a potential match to see more than just a photo.

7.Use proper grammar, spelling and punctuation in your information

You can type your responses in a word file before adding them to your profile. Not bothering to spell correctly or punctuate a sentence might make you look lazy and not interested enough in the site to take the time to write properly.

8.Update your profile information accordingly

It's easy to forget about your own profile while you're looking at everyone else's. Make sure that you check your profile periodically and change anything you feel that you need to. Sometimes it's as simple as rewriting a paragraph because you've thought of a better way to phrase what you want to say.

Other times you need to update the content. For example, if your profile says that you work at an insurance company, but you then change jobs, you need to delete that section and add where you're currently working.

Good luck on building your profile!

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Tuesday, July 29, 2008

How to Get Over a Break Up - The Quick Guide

Author: Billy K. Beeman

All good things come to an end...and a lot of things that seem to be good at the time can as well. One of the most common situations for anyone dating (at any age) is dealing with the pain and detritus of a relationship gone south.

First things first - when you're dealing with the breakup, or the impending breakup, you aren't in your right mind. You're already grieving for something that's gone. And like grieving for anything, there are stages you go through. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.

Now, before we even get into the tactics for how to deal with the break up, the first thing you need to understand is that the break up doesn't have to happen in the first place.

Or, if it already has, it doesn't have to be permanent! Far from it. In fact, if you'll go down to the bottom of this article, you'll see that I've given you some links to a few resources that can actually help you win back your ex quickly and painlessly.

Definitely check this out.

Okay, back to how to survive a break up...

Don't make any lifelong decisions until you're through at least the first three steps of this.

Denial - you can't believe he (or she) dumped you. You got the "It's over..." message, and you're doing anything you can to stay in contact. You're wondering if they're seeing someone else. It's ugly. It's like a part of you has been cut off.

Anger - OK, you've internalized the fact that they've rejected you. Now you're going to act out on it. You're angry. You're frustrated. You're calling them and bawling them out (or just bawling.)

Bargaining - Now you're trying to convince them that you're the right person for them. You're trying to bargain for any kind of contact. This is where a lot of men make mistakes in relationships, it's where they do the belly crawl, and their friends pity them.

Depression - After you've discovered that bargaining isn't working, there comes the point where you realize just how futile all of this has been, comes the depression. This is where you need to focus on doing other things and get past this. This is where your friends, if they're paying attention, will try to drag you out of the house.

Acceptance - Eventually, you learn to move on.

Ways around this is to remember that the first four stages of this are degrading. They're where you're playing a reactive game. You've lost the initiative. At this point, as soon as you can, focus on convincing the person who dumped you that you've moved on with your life. That your life is fine without them. One of two things will happen - they will either come back to you, or you'll short circuit the "I'm going to be an idiot" phase of the breakup.

There are a lot of techniques to doing this, but the first thing to keep in mind is that relationships end, and you'll go on. Indeed, sometimes the best lessons you learn are from relationships that blow up...

Until next time!


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Sunday, July 27, 2008

Dealing With Rejection in Dating



Author: Marvin Perry

Dating is a fun and important way for you to meet the person that the heavens have created to be yours forever. Dating is also one way for you to practice your social skills, boost your confidence level, and enjoy yourself. However, as with all things in this world, dating may turn out to be a disappointment and can cause you pain. If you want to find out how to overcome bad dating experiences or avoid them altogether, then this article is for you. Read on to know what to do in order to deal with rejection that can happen on a seemingly harmless date.

It's best to determine your enthusiasm before you agree to go on a date. If you're excited to go on a particular date, chances are you'll be more energetic when the big event comes and thus, have a lesser chance of getting dumped.

Before you deal with rejection, try to avoid it first. On your date, be as interesting and interested as you can possibly be. Quiet moments are only okay when you and your date are already in synch; otherwise, awkward moments of silence is a no-no. Give her or him the details they ask for, however, you should not offer any information which may compromise your safety. If you go to a bar on your date you should ask your date to dance to make you feel more comfortable together. If you're trying out new cuisine, be spontaneous with your order so you can show your adventurous side.

If everything fails and your date just isn't going right, then it's time to start accepting defeat.

The way you deal with rejection in dating can determine your view in life. Getting rejected can be extremely difficult if you're always been popular and well liked among your friends. If you've been rejected a few times before, another one can make you feel yet less your worth again. It's sad the way people let other people ruin their perception of their self and life. Don't be one of these poor people. Instead, let a rejection make you stronger and wiser.

If your date is not going well and she or he tells you that they do not want to go on another date with you, you should not throw a temper tantrum. Instead, be heroic and ask him or her the reasons for his or her decision. That's the only way you can find out what went wrong and what, if any, your contribution was to the date's failure. If you feel that your date also has flaws that he or she should know about, by all means tell him or her. This way, both of you can learn and move on without unanswered questions and confusion.

Dating will always involve risks. Rejection can make you a better individual if you embrace it as a lesson. You should remember the main reason why you were rejected is because you were meant for someone who truly appreciates you and will love you for the person you are.


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Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Why Shy Men are Control freaks with Woman

Author: Louis and David Copeland

Having a woman feel "safe" with you is the most important thing. The problem is, if it is critically important that you always make a woman feel safe, then you have committed yourself to controlling how she feels. This makes you into a control-freak. Consider:

If you are going to produce the outcome called "She always feels safe," You must control her feelings. To control her feelings, you have to also control every aspect of your interaction, every aspect of your conversation, and every aspect of everything else. If you lose control, she might feel unsafe. Thus, having to make her feel safe means controlling everything. That is, in our minds, being a control-freak. Shy men become control freaks because they want to respect women and keep them safe, but being a control freak accomplishes neither; it actually restricts and even hurts women.

The truth is that shy men don't bring safety to women. They bring the illusion of safety, or safety in a very small way--along with a really big sense of restriction. As a result, a woman will tell a shy man that she feels "safe" with him, but that "safety" lives in a very narrow range: She knows he won't attack her, and that she is probably not in immanent physical danger when she is with him. Otherwise, she feels restrained and oppressed around him, and would never in a million years dream of dating him.

Shy men live their lives thinking that they are showing up to women as great guys. They are not. They seem unobtainable, controlling, and difficult. David, who used to be very shy with women, found this out years ago at a personal growth course. He got up and talk about how he felt shy with women, and always wanted to make them feel safe. The group leader asked the women in the group, "How do you feel about a guy like this, who won't talk to you?" To David's astonishment, the women were uniform in their response: they thought he was a jerk. "If he won't talk to us and relax, how can we have relationships with him?," and "How dare he decide how we should feel with him?" was the tone of their responses. It was a real eye-opener. Shy men seem difficult to women.

We once shared this story with a very shy student of ours, and he couldn't--in fact, he stubbornly wouldn't--believe us. He would not believe that he might seem difficult to women, though there was ample evidence, even in his own life, that women were trying to connect with him and he wouldn't allow it. Until he was willing to accept that his shyness might have a different effect on women than he thought, he was unable to change it.

So what is there to do about it? It can help to consider what we have said here about being a control freak. Because your control-freak-ism is motivated by your desire to be a "good guy" with women, realizing that you aren't doing women any favors will naturally motivate you to give that behavior up.

Here's what you should consider replacing it with: Accepting your interest in women as a wholesome thing. If you accept yourself and can risk expressing yourself more-or-less fully, then women around you will feel like they can accept and express themselves, too. If you take appropriate risks with women, it opens the door for them to take risks with you.

Take some risks, and let go of controlling how women feel, and you'll find that you have been experiences with women. You'll feel freer, and she'll feel freer, and your chances of success with each other will go up exponentially.

Monday, July 21, 2008

Love and Sex are Different Things

Author: wangcan

Love is an intense positive feeling towards a person, place or thing that involves showing that feeling in a positive way towards the object of the love. True Love is explained elsewhere and involves more.

Love is, like getting hit by a large truck and not being mortally wounded. You feel sick to your stomach--high one minute and low the next, starving hungry but unable to eat. You feel hot, cold, forever horny and full of hope and enthusiasm, with momentary depressions that wipe you out. It is also about not being able to remove the smile from your face, loving life with passionate intensity and feeling 10 years younger.

Love appears without any warning signs. You fall into it as if you've been pushed from a high diving board. There's no time to think about what's happening--it's inevitable. It's an ecstatic high and the lowest of the low, the best beauty treatment on the market and, sometimes, it's too intrusive for its own good.

Sex are the actions animals (we will leave plants and other forms of life out of this for now) do to satisfy the basic ingrained drive to reproduce and make more of themselves. Since humans are animals (nope, not minerals or vegtebles), we have varying degrees of sex drive.

Sex is another trip altogether because it comes in all different disguises. There's loving sex, boring sex, dirty sex, crazy sex, predictable sex and the best sex of all--pure animal passion combined with true love, which takes you to a place you'll never forget.

When you have sex it does not mean there is love. Some people just have sex because it brings them pleasure or attention ... or both. Some do it just because they are bored, need money, enjoy sex, want attention, want acceptence, or are drunk. The best way to have sex is with someone you LOVE, when the time is right.

Make sure you know the difference! Do not confuse someone you Love to have sex with (meaning you love the sex action) with someone who you love.

When you love someone, it does not mean you need to have sex. When you are a loving couple, you do not need to have sex. If one or both of a couple want sex, then it is becomes a factor of a relationship. For a couple of age who love each other sex is a normal part of a relationship.


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Saturday, July 19, 2008

How to be a Better Lover

Author: Ken Wilson

If you know how to last longer in bed, you can have the best time of your life. However, when it comes to making love, the duration of the intercourse is not the most essential thing. When making love, the one that counts is not you, but your partner. Therefore it is essential to know what pleases her.

In order to learn how to be a better lover you must learn all the things that please your partner. A female’s body is harder to please than a male’s one. If men have only one erogenous zone – his penis – a woman has 5. These are:

- Her neck: a woman’s neck, besides being very beautiful, is one of the most erogenous zones of her body. When softly kissing it, while applying a soft massage with your tongue, you can make her giggle with pleasure. Taking care of her neck is also an important part of the foreplay. So, if you want to know how to last longer in bed and you also want to learn how to be a better lover, make sure that her neck is carefully treated.

- Playing with her ear lobes is yet another way of pleasing her. While some of them might be tickled by your tongue, other will simply adore this kind of play. Be sure that you don’t just kiss her, but that you also whisper sweet filthy thing in her year. When your faces touch, she will be as horny as she can get.

- A woman’s nipples are tasty. Learning how to be a better lover cannot be done without the nipple play. They become harder and harder, just like your erection. Be sure that you treat both of her breasts with the same respect – kiss them both, massage them both with your hands and tongue. While here, if you want to know how to last longer in bed, take some time between her breasts – she will surely grab your head, telling you that you are the best.

- Her belly button is a logical conclusion. While kissing her tits, make your way down until reaching the center of her belly. If you stimulate this area with your lips and tongue, you will be able to stimulate her G-spot as well.

- Naturally, the G-spot is like a Mecca of a man that learns how to be a better lover. It is situated on the roof of her vagina, and is not that small as many men complain. It is big enough for you to find and stimulate it. This is the most erogenous part of the female body – if you have learned how to last longer in bed, you will see that – when touching the G-spot – she will lose control, she will scream, she will kick, she will cry, she will be as pleased as she comes.

As you can see, learning how to last longer in bed involves learning the things that make her literally scream. If you have learned the true erogenous zones of the female body, you can say that you know how to be a better lover. And she will be very grateful for that – even if she has to keep in mind only the single male erogenous zone – your Johnson.


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Thursday, July 17, 2008

Learn How to Last Longer in Bed

Author: Ken Wilson

In this male sex help guide, I am going to tell you some of my secrets that helped me become the sex god I am. This way, you will be able to feel the pleasure that I feel every time I am in bed with my partner.

Ever since we appeared on this planet, we have desired to be the ones that make all the women happy. However, we did not manage to do that all the times. The problems vary from not being able to get it up to premature ejaculation. There are many responses to these problems, but almost all of them recourse to pills and drugs. However, in this males sex guide you will find out the most natural ways to please your partner for a longer time, every time you are doing it.

The first thing to know when you are learning how to last longer in bed is that you should not be in a hurry. Take your time, slow down a little – she is not going anywhere, and you are not coming. Take your time and make her feel your every movement that you make.

The next key on how to last longer in bed is to make her feel the pleasure. Do not concentrate on yourself, concentrate on her. When you feel like coming, stop for a few seconds – change positions for example – and, when the urge has passed, start all over again. She will be very pleased and very grateful. Just think at something else, concentrate on what makes her tick – play with her breasts, kiss her neck, play with her ear lobes. In order to have a long sex session, remember that her entire body can function as a sexual receptacle. Every inch of her skin must be explored.

Learn how to stop your body before the climax. This is not the same step as the previous in this male sex help guide. This training should be done before the actual sex. Spend some time with yourself, play with your Willy, and see what makes him blow. And, before that, stop. This way, you will be able to recognize the exact moment of shooting. So, next time when you will be having sex, you will be able to stop your pushing exactly before coming, preventing the disastrous end of your night.

If you want to know how to last longer in bed, than you must know that you are not the one that is important. That means that all your energy should be spent on your partner, on making your partner feel all the pleasure.

Another male sex help tip I can give you is that you shouldn’t think at all about the fact that you are having sex with one of the most beautiful persons in the world. The moment you think about that is the moment that you become anxious and ready to blow. Think about anything else in the world, but not about having sex.

However, after following all this advices, you will feel the urge of coming eventually. But, this time you will be ready. You will know how to stop your load and how to make her feel good for a longer period of time.


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Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Be a Better Sex Partner – Learn How to Improve Sex

Author: Ken Wilson

Everybody dreams about having and giving the best sex sessions ever. However, almost everybody does only that – dreaming. The question is: how does one stop dreaming about it and start doing it? Because, as you will see, it is as easy as it comes when you have to have sex.

First off all, we have to admit one thing and one thing only – we are not as good in bed as we wanted to be. Otherwise, why would you read a guide about how to improve sex?

Second off all, we must think like pornstars – and you know why? Because it is easy and fun to have wild and dirty sex. It is not some sort of boring job, where you have to wake up in the morning, take the bus and spend your entire day writing reports and doing statistics about other people having sex. It is you the one that feels the pleasure of doing the deed.

And, third of all, keep in mind the following things that pornstars do:

Act as if you enjoy having sex, because you do like it. What does that mean? Just smile, like you want to be there, with the one that you are doing it. Don’t be ashamed by the size of your penis, by the fact that you are a little to hairy, or just because you drink too much beer. If you want to know how to improve sex, you have to be confident about the way you look, and you have to show your partner that. When smiling and letting him or her know that you are aroused, you would have made your first step on the path of learning how to have sex like a pornstar.

Have you heard pornstars having sex? Scream like them; it is the second thing you must do. I mean, smiling is a good way of showing your confidence in your abilities. But screaming (groaning, whimpering, screaming all those filthy words that you know) is the ultimate indication of you god-like abilities. When screaming, you become less inhibited – and this helps not only you, but your partner too. If you want to know how to improve sex, just open your mouth. It is easy enough to scream – because now you learn how to have sex like a pornstar.

Change the scenery – I mean, how many pornstars have sex in the bedroom, in bed? The sex is better in the place where you get aroused. Do not wait to get home, get in the bedroom, make the bed and then have sex. Just do it wherever you have to do it. As I have said, in order to know how to improve sex you have to be confident in yourself. Even if you have to do it in the changing room of a supermarket. However, do not go to the supermarket especially to have sex. Try your garden, try the kitchen table, try the elevator – you will know how to have sex like a pornstar in no time.

Role-playing – the last important thing to do, if you want to know how to improve sex. Play a little game – cops and robbers: you can do wanders with a pair of handcuffs; the doctor and the nurse – where can you put that big thermometer? Playing is very fun, when you know how to have sex like a pornstar. However, keep in mind the fact that not the details of the scenario count, but the way you act. And if you smile, scream and do it in the cellar – while your partner is gagging on that big thermometer, you are already a master of the art of how to have sex like a pornstar.


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Sunday, July 13, 2008

Ending a Long Term Relationship on Your Terms!

Author: Johan Krost

Ending a long term relationship is a very traumatic event in life to deal with. You've been with a person that you shared good times and bad with. It's very hard to cut that person out of your life. You've evaluated the situation and really tried to make the relationship work as best you can, but you still are not happy and you don't see any way to solve the situation in a way to keep the relationship in tact.

You know in your heart that this will be best for you and in time, the partner you are leaving behind. Right now you have to be strong and full of resolve. There are three keys to ending a long term relationship. If you are able to follow these, you should be able to end things on a positive note.

Step 1. Be calm and have a plan of action in mind.

Never make a rash decision when you are emotional. Start making your plan for how you'll approach the topic once you are able to think in a level headed way. Plan as much of the process out ahead of time as you can. This will send a powerful message to your partner when they realize this is something you have thought out in advance and not just a emotional reaction.

Step 2. Communicate your feelings and plan with your partner.

Emotion will be present in the conversation, but you must remain calm, almost quiet through the discussion. Many times in conflict, the person who is getting the information for the first time will subconsciously use emotion to try and change the decision being presented. Often yelling and then crying. Be prepared and be strong. This is someone who knows all your secrets and past. It's common for them to play to your weaknesses, in an effort to get you to stay. Many times, this takes the form of guilt trips or in some cases, emotionally abusive behavior.

Step 3. End things on a good note whenever possible.

You had a relationship with this person for a long time. There were strong feelings of affection and love that brought you together once. Keep that in mind and continue to remind your partner of that. Try not to let things get angry or nasty. Present this change as a positive one for both of you and keep a happy demeanor as much as possible as you go through the process of whatever changes need to take place.

It's never fun to end something that's been a big part of your life. If you are at that point and feel strongly enough about it to start down this road, then you are at a crossroads. Congratulations on recognizing and listening to your own feelings. Too many times in today's society, people remain in situations that have deteriorated beyond their control...or so they think. You always have control over your own actions. Good luck!


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